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This episode is your permission slip to escape perfectionism.
Because the truth is, the shame spirals don’t work.
Meet Ericka
This week, we sat down with Ericka Graham:
A mom of two boys
A preacher at Ecclesia in Houston
A former NFL wife
Co-founder of Project 88 (a nonprofit that raised $1.9M)
Host of the podcast Curiously with Ericka Graham
And she’ll be the first to tell you she’s also a “messy mom.” Not in a chaotic way. In an honest, human, deeply freeing way.
Her best quotes from the episode are highlighted below, and believe us… you don’t want to miss them.
Motherhood Will Change You (And That’s the Point)
“When you become a mom, you have to renegotiate your past life with your future.”
Motherhood isn’t just an addition. It’s a reorganization. A sifting of what stays and what falls away in this new season.
And here’s the part we don’t talk about enough:
Every decision comes with loss.
“I get stuck thinking there’s a perfect decision that won’t come with loss.”
But that version doesn’t exist.
The Trap: Trying to Do It All “Right”
We feel it when:
We’re not performing like we used to
We forget something important
We don’t feel like the “put together” version of ourselves
And our default response? Shame.
“The shame spirals don’t work.”
They don’t make you better. They just keep you stuck.
Why Perfection Is Actually the Problem
“A perfect mom would not be a good mom… because they’re perfect.”
Your imperfections aren’t the issue. They’re the gift.
They’re what make you human, relatable and a safe for your kids to be imperfect too.
A Better Way to Live (and Mom)
Ericka said yes to getting help organizing her pantry. No spiral. No overthinking. No meaning-making. Just… “come on over.”
That kind of freedom comes from letting go of this idea that you have to be everything (because you don’t).
You don’t have to be:
the most organized
the most productive
the best at everything
You just have to be present enough to notice what matters.
Curiosity > Certainty
“The opposite of faith isn’t doubt. It’s certainty.”
And motherhood will strip you of certainty fast. But in its place comes curiosity.
What does this season require?
What can I let go of?
What actually matters right now?
That’s where peace in motherhood is found.
If This Episode Felt Like You…
Send it to the friend who’s been saying, “I feel off, but I don’t know why.”
Or the one who’s:
trying to figure out who she is now
comparing herself to her old life
quietly wondering if she’s doing this wrong
She’s not… and neither are you.
Listen + Connect with Ericka
You don’t have to be perfect to be a good mom. In fact, perfection is the enemy of a present motherhood.
If you’re in a season of renegotiating who you are, what you carry, and what you let go of, coaching can help you do that with intention.
Our Get Mom Ready coaches are here to walk with you through it.
You can book an exploratory call here to get started or email us at info@thereadynetwork.com.
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